Life: Agglomeration of Changes


The reality haunts, things don’t seem the way they should, they are not the way you want them to, and they are not even the way you thought about. If these are the kind of thoughts that wander deep down or probably on the surface of your mind, then, welcome to Life! Continue reading “Life: Agglomeration of Changes”


Circumstances or Inner Chaos?


“Stop blaming your outside circumstances for your inner chaos.”

Most of the theories in psychology talk about the association of a person’s behavior to the external stimuli. Be it cognitive psychology, where the past develops the certain perceptions or notions in the mind of an individual, or Transaction analysis, where the person acts in different ego states, based on the Stimuli. Or the fundamental attribution theory, where to judge the performance of an individual in any terms, measuring the external events is also essential.
All theories I have encountered, talked about how circumstances change our behavior, how a good being can turn into a cynical being and how one is ought to be empathetic to the rest of the world.
These theories are the channels of understanding the complex human mind and how two beings can act differently in same situations; like, the sun hardens the clay but the same sun melts the ice too. But let’s not forget the key to these problems, the note for self on how we constantly ponder over the circumstances and give them the power over our mind and actions.
Situations do leave human beings gasping for help or at times makes one do those things , which they thought of never even attempting. External stimuli do render you more vulnerable, it makes you paint yourself in one corner.
Circumstances, they are beyond human control, but how one deals with it lies within the personal boundaries. But sadly, sometimes circumstances render the sharpest minds numb. That’s when one witnesses their lows, some are able to rise above it, some stay in that mystical land, where their productivity maybe nil, but their mind is always preoccupied with nothingness. Where at that moment all is pleasure, but it destroys you internally, that’s when circumstances give birth to an escapist, that is exactly when avoiding situations or pseudo occupying yourself to evade the situations escalate.
Pseudo occupying , a deep phrase , is where the person seems to be , and believes to be busy , the attitude sinks in them so much , that they do not realize that it is a part of them. That is where most individuals lose their true self and run in the race of this ensnared life.
Leaving things onto destiny and running with the flow has a very thin line difference. In the former there is acceptance and peace, in latter, there is escapism and chaos.
The latter ones are the people who play the blame game for their inner chaos. A Game , on how something has changed their behavior , how they have been in a situation they are in, these are the people who don’t get up and take charge of life, who just let the situations take toll over them.
One may not realize, but escapism is easy and can divert the attention off the situation but it is one of the root causes of anger outbursts, emotional boils, depression or in worst cases loss of life. Yes, giving up on situations can be as drastic as loss of life, simply because they do not have the power to change their situations, nor the courage to accept the current turmoil they are facing.
That’s where these theories help understanding the complexities in life, but they also come with how to deal with them. How to come out of the viscous circle and take charge of your life.
The problem with most of us is we focus on things we do not want, and hence never able to change the situations.
The universe doesn’t understand negation; it is obedient and serves you what you ask for.
Focus on things you want in life, ‘your thoughts become things’ and do not blame the circumstances for the inner tornado you are dealing with , instead use it as a tool for empathy , which can help you put yourself in someone else’s shoe better. There is absolutely nobody in this world who doesn’t feel that the situation they are in is the most back-breaking. But, when you are feeling helpless, try helping others, it will make you grow as an individual, you will start feeling better about your life, try putting yourself in the place of others , the world looks different from the eye lens of each and every individual, no two beings share the eye lens for the life we live.
( With the bare minimum experience that I have , all I can say is the best way to help yourself out of circumstances , is to completely be with you and work on yourself.)

“Prisoner of Patriarchy”


I am a Muslim, I am a Christian, I am a Buddhist, I am a Sikh, and I am an Atheist.

I am twenty, I am thirty, I am forty and I am Fifty.

I am Single, I am Married, and I am Divorced.

I am Half the Country.”

-Kalki Koechlin

Moving down the realms of history one realizes how far we have come in this journey of breaking down the unyielding belief of Patriarchy. Continue reading ““Prisoner of Patriarchy””

Love : A Bittersweet Symphony

Love, a deep diving word. An exhilarating experience, a word that cannot be expressed in words, a feeling which one experiences throughout their life, for this is the sole cause of pain.
Love better off be called as expectations and hence the pain.
Most people in this Universe , relate love to love for their Partners , their “better halves” , which is just one of the kinds , of course the most necessary of all , and a prodigious form , that makes your heart skip a beat , without any failure.
But, there is a slight issue there.
Continue reading “Love : A Bittersweet Symphony”

Find Your Calling


“Many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fears.”

Not many of us understand the depth of these words and not many of us live our dreams. Some, because of their fears. Others, because they do not know their calling to follow these dreams. To them these dreams are just subconscious visual clipping that are processed by our potential thought process.
Sigh! Sad but true, Everyone is running to get somewhere , but to where, no one knows. We all are trapped in this cage of burden and responsibility in some form, so much so that there is a no way out but  to accept the responsibility and work towards it with a joyous frame of mind.

Joy is often interchangeably with happiness. But happiness is a very absurd concept and there is a variety to it. Transit happiness, momentary happiness, sensational happiness, long term happiness, happiness of all sorts in different colors borne by the white light like the colors of Rainbow. One may be happy yet not joyous.
Joy is within; happiness just stays as long as the Rainbow does. It brings its own spark, but it fades away.
Your calling, not necessarily work related, can make you achieve that joy within. As rightly said the most important day in your life is when you are born and the next most important day is when you find out WHY!!
The reason why we are born as humans is so we can think of our own better and give direction to our life , but most of us just let it go meaningless , not many do think , press pause, and introspect about what they want , why they want and how do they want to go about it. The reason being , the sense that is given to us for our betterment and for the evolution of self and the surroundings, is wasted by leakages like, anxiety , fear , remorse , anger , jealousy , comparison & all those negative feelings that constantly make us run in this life without any purpose.
Somewhere, here in this limbo of negative forces lies our productivity and calling. Here lies the sole purpose of why we live, the purpose of every breath we take!